Lack of sensitivity and respect in society…are times changing or is it just more accessible.

With the passing of another celebrity announced this morning I wanted to address something that’s been on my mind lately.  

I want to know if people have always been this insensitive or if it’s just more noticeable because of social media.

I understand the anonymity of screen names and avatars give people a certain sense of freedom to say what they want and “Internet Trolls” were always these evil unknown creatures that created false accounts to simply go online and make others feel bad by saying mean things.  BUT…recently I have noticed many of my facebook friends and those folks I know on twitter have been much more open with their comments and opinions in a way I don’t remember the general public behaving when I was growing up.  

Example one:   When Philip Seymour Hoffman tragically died in early February I was heartbroken.  He was one of the first actors I had the privilege of working with when I booked my first SAG job on Along Came Polly.  I saw it online and double-checked several sources before posting a facebook status stating that I was sad that such a talented man had passed.  Shortly after I had several comments ranging from RIP to he isn’t dead, it’s a hoax to people shouldn’t do drugs, etc.  Some comments were respectful and kind, but several of them weren’t and I deleted the negative comments, but still all of the negative comments hurt.  Why would people I know personally be so cruel to make insensitive comments directly to me when I expressed my grief over a loss I felt for someone I had worked with?  I then saw several cruel facebook status updates from other “friends” with jokes, harsh reactions and assumptions of his drug use, and so forth.  This was all even before the cause of death was officially announced.  I actually avoided going online for a part of the day because I found it all too much.

Example two: A little girl in my hometown had a facebook page set up for her friends and supporters to follow her journey and write uplifting messages to her and her family.  It was announced that she had been given only a couple of weeks after a turn in her health.  People started spreading the word and “likes” grew on her page, so did comments of support.  Then came other comments…less supportive.  Then she passed away.  A few days later I saw a post from her mother that she was very upset by the negative remarks left on the page.  Why would anyone write negative or hurtful comments to a mother that just lost her daughter to cancer!?!?  

Example three: This morning Harold Ramis died from complications of a rare disease.  I found out through social media because I saw a joke on someone’s status about it.  

I can only imagine how awful it must be for the family and close friends that cannot go online without running the risk of seeing rude, insensitive, mean, jokes and comments made at the expense of their loved one that they are grieving at the moment.  I don’t understand why people feel it’s ok to make such comments.  Are these things people were saying all along, but now it’s just more visible due to social media…or has social media made people less aware of the impact their comments make on others?

 

NOW MY INDUSTRY P.O.V.

Now here’s another thing…if you WORK in the entertainment industry, struggling to get your next gig as a writer, actor, director, etc…it is even more difficult for me to understand why making jokes or saying anything mean about a peer or their project would even be a thought in your mind.  Many of the mean things I read immediately after Philip passed were by my industry connections.  I don’t want to work with people that I find insensitive, judgmental and only out for themselves making such comments about a fellow performer in such a tragic moment.  Those simply aren’t the kid of people I want to surround myself with.  I can imagine others must have feel this way as well.  Even if I am being overly sensitive…do you really want to take a chance that a possible employer would look you up online and see those type of negative status updates, especially if they were friends with the person you were commenting on…or the project you made fun of was something they produced and were proud of…or the singer you called tone-deaf was their daughter or son…etc.  THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE PUTTING OUT THERE.  

 

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.  

Things to do near Los Angeles – Roller Skating

MOONLIGHT ROLLERWAY

I used to LOVE roller skating as a kid. I even remember going roller skating with the Girl Scouts. So, when I found out there are still old school roller rinks in the Los Angeles area I had to check it out. Again, this is not necessarily something I recommend for tourists, but rather for locals.

I found Moonlight Rollerway through a web search. Jeremiah & I checked the website and called for information on the hours, which are very specific so be sure to check before you go. We drove over there, only getting lost once and then slowly pulled into a slightly dodgy parking area after dark. We actually had the discussion about whether or not to actually go inside. I’m glad we did. It is a total flashback to my childhood.

I’m not a terribly strong roller skater, so avoiding tripping over fallen children…well let’s just say they should’ve known better than to fall in front of a girl in elbow & knee pads in hightop skates. Apparently a few adults thought I was a roller-derby girl or something because they invited me to adult only night. However, I was too afraid that the high speed and skill of adults only might be a bit much for a girl that can barely balance when no one is with in yards of her. 🙂 My favorite thing was the live organist playing music.

This place is a great date night activity or workout if your looking for fun ways to get some exercise.

Nudity in auditions, I think not.

Okay.  So I really don’t have a problem with nudity in media.  I mean if you watched Beta House you already knew that.  I believe that performers can choose to do roles with nudity or not…totally up to them. 

I personally am not a huge fan of most movies with insane amount of gratuitous nudity for the sake of DVD sales, but again it’s not my place to judge the performers for doing those role. 

Here’s where I think nudity is a problem.  AUDITIONS!  There is almost always no reason to make actors or actresses be fully nude on tape for auditions.  I think if anyone in production feels that it is needed to make sure the performer is “really” okay with the nudity, then they should be run out of the biz.  It’s BS.  Especially if the person auditioning has done nudity in prior projects.  I just don’t understand what goes on in some people’s minds.  It’s uncomfortable, unneccessary and in my opinion taking advantage of your positions in production in an inappropriate way.

And that’s how I really feel.

Things to do near Los Angeles – Putt Putt

Every once in a while my guy and I get the urge to go miniature golfing. There is only one place close to our home that we know of, so we always go there. SHERMAN OAKS CASTLE

This is something I’d recommend for locals only. If you are in Los Angeles for a week on vacation, this is not a hopping tourist attraction. It’s not the most well kept or elegant mini-golf course, but it’s something fun, reasonably priced and competitive to do. It really reminds me of something I would do back home in Indiana. They also have an arcade and batting cages.

There always seems to be a lot of kids there when we go. You can choose between a couple of different courses, so we always look to see which has the smallest group in front of us. (I don’t want to wait behind a family of six at each hole.) With that being said I still haven’t golfed course #1…it seems to be most popular with families when we are there. spooky mini-golf hole

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